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Honesty in Love, Sex and Dating (in English)

4-Day Summer Retreat

05. - 09.06.2024
How is Love, Sex, and Dating Different When You're Honest?

“Truth in dating is not for the faint of heart” - Dr. Susan Campbell

Do you ever find yourself trapped in a cycle of pretense, repeating the same patterns, hitting the same barriers?
Desire for love, affection, touch and intimacy is at the core of our human existence. We all yearn to be accepted and wanted.
It's no surprise, then, that we often feel lost in the world of love, sex, and dating, and that we resort to pretense and avoidance. Often, we struggle with expressing our true desires, and go along with things that don't align with our inner truth.

In this workshop, we confront these challenges head-on. We'll practice articulating our fears and desires and find the right words to express what we truly want and need.

Have you ever

• Said yes when you wanted to say no?
• Said no when you wanted to say yes?
• Wondered how someone feels about you, but not dared to ask?
• Had your feelings hurt but didn’t admit it?
• Felt angry but acted like everything was fine?
• Been jealous but acted cool?
• Pretended to like someone more than you did?
• Pretended to like someone less than you did?
• Felt physically affectionate, but didn’t want to appear eager, easy or horny?
• Felt appreciative, but held yourself back?
• Pretended to be more turned on than you really were?
• Had sex with someone to avoid conflict or confrontation?
• Lied to protect someone’s feelings?
• Felt nervous or inhibited with someone you’re especially attracted to?
• Wished you would be more spontaneous and natural with someone you’re just getting to know?

Do you want to experience a more profound intimacy - one rooted in truth and authenticity?

If so, this residential retreat is for you


Contents

We will spend much of five days and four nights together, coming together as an honest community of our own. We will form a pact of truth-telling, agreeing to tell our truths for the duration of the retreat.
Activities include talks, directed conversations, paired exercises, small group exercises, meditation, movement and exercises in nonverbal communication, to help you learn how to relax into intimacy based on being open and honest.
The conversations will revolve around love, sex and dating. We will explore topics around communication of boundaries, relationship agreements and styles.
Drawing on the facilitators' ongoing and completed training in Radical Honesty, Sex- and Relationship Therapy, the Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin, and Getting Real and Truth in Dating by Dr. Susan Campbell, we will consider our cultural programming and facilitate a shift from controlling to relating. Through exercises, we will pay attention to our bodies, communicate boundaries and ask for what we want.
The retreat is designed to help you connect more deeply with yourself and with others by expressing fear, anger, appreciation and whatever else is arising in the moment. Inhonest interactions, the facilitators can assist you by:
• Slowing down and placing the focus on one person’s experience at a time
• Moving your attention to the here and to your body
• Empathic reflection and exploration, offering suggestions to help discover what you feel and what you need, and finding the right words and ways to express yourself.



Location and facilities

Join us this summer in ZEGG, the Center for Experimental Cultural Design. This more than 30-year old living experiment, an hour from Berlin, has 120 people living and exploring the personal and cultural conditions for trust, connection and cooperation on a daily basis, with a particular focus on community, ecology, love and sexuality.
In the breaks, you may explore the community grounds and go for walks in the surrounding nature. Visit ZEGG’s village pub with delicious drinks, take a swim in the pool and enjoy the sun. We have booked the sauna for one evening, included in the price, with additional evenings available for booking as a group upon request.
The workshop takes place in the San Diego building located on the ZEGG community grounds.

Still not sure?

Honesty in Love, Sex and Dating is for you if you’re…
• holding yourself back, scared of being too much, or not enough
• paralyzed with fear of rejection
• going along, instead of saying what you actually want
• don’t actually know what you want
• longing for feeling wanted and loved
• scared of stepping over boundaries
• struggling to express boundaries
• struggling with the balance between autonomy and commitment
• feeling almost too shy to talk about love, sex and dating, but would like to
• longing for more depth and intimacy
• pressuring yourself to be cool and sexy
• pressuring yourself to be strong, brave and competent
• want to please everyone and contact with other people often exhausts you
• stress yourself out on dates and flirting and make an effort to do “the right thing”
• Your sex life is boring and you’re holding back impulses, desires and fantasies
• You’re afraid to be honest with your partner for fear of disappointing them

It is not for you if you
• don't want to tell the truth
• want to stay in your comfort zone at all times
• don't want to hear participants expressing themselves loudly at times
• participate to change others in your life rather than yourself


Concession rates may be available upon request for those with lower incomes. Contact Eivind to request this on:
We welcome participants of all genders. During the exercises, genders will be mixed to promote an inclusive and diverse experience. Please note that this is not a dating event, but a space for personal growth and exploration.
This workshop is neither therapy nor a curative treatment. We encourage anyone with concerns about existing illnesses to consult with their doctor or therapist as well as asking us before participating.
Be prepared for a journey that may evoke intense sensations and uncomfortable realizations. If you prefer to avoid such experiences, this event is not suitable for you.
While we might not address every aspect mentioned in this event description directly, the retreat is designed to equip you with tools to tackle these challenges.

Dates and registration

05. - 09.06.2024
Honesty in Love, Sex and Dating (in English)
Seminargebühr: 690 €
Early bird until 05.05.2024: 520 €
Accomodation, meals: € 236 - 392, plus tourist tax
Places available
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*) Note: Online registration is not available for this event.
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